How to Support Neurodivergent Kids on Halloween

Halloween is supposed to be fun. But for many neurodivergent kids (and their parents!) it can also be overwhelming.

The costumes, crowds, flashing lights, loud music, and constant social interaction can all add up to sensory overload. What’s meant to be playful can quickly turn into stress and meltdowns.

None of that means your child doesn’t enjoy the holiday, it just means they experience it differently.

As a neuropsychologist, I’ve seen how a few small adjustments can make all the difference.

Here are five ways you can support neurodivergent kids this Halloween:

1. Set expectations early

Talk through what Halloween will look like this year, like where you’ll go, who you’ll see, and what’s optional. Visual schedules or social stories can help younger kids prepare and feel safe.

2. Choose comfort over costume accuracy

Tags, masks, face paint, or tight fabrics can be a recipe for distress. Let kids help pick what feels right. Sometimes that means wearing pajamas under a cape or skipping the costume altogether.

3. Plan for breaks

Quiet moments are part of success, not a sign of failure. Build in calm time between trick-or-treat stops or after school before events.

4. Redefine what “participation” means

Not every child needs to go door-to-door. Handing out candy, watching a movie, or decorating at home can still feel festive. The goal isn’t conformity, it’s joy.

5. Model flexibility

If plans change or your child needs to leave early, follow their lead. When adults stay calm and responsive, kids learn that their needs are valid and manageable.

Halloween doesn’t have to be perfect!

Whatever you choose to do should always feel safe and meaningful for your child.

That’s what makes it worth celebrating.